Starting to think about Christmas reminded me of a conversation I had with my daughter this week.
Now I need to set this in context.
My daughter has three kids six and under. She has a big house which is spotless, and she has a Golden Retriever. Once or twice when I have gone over the help her clean, like when she had a new baby, I would go into her bathroom and stand around in there for a bit, maybe read a magazine, and then come out and say "Done!" She would go in and inspect and tell me things looked great.
Of course they did.
My daughter also works part-time in children's oncology, crafts, entertains tons, and has great friendships.
But still she often wonders if she is doing enough.
Her whole crowd wonders the same thing.
A week ago one of her friends organized a make-up party with a make up artist to show them how to do up their faces so they didn't look tired. The girl who organized this is my dentist, with her own practice and four kids under five - including two twins. Boys so busy that at one stage they had to have their diapers duct taped on them.
With this life she is supposed to be tired as far as I can make out.
IMO the bar is too high and the next generation of women is bending under it.
I think we all need a little less Pinterest, a few more honest bloggers, and fewer high performance Instagram play-by-plays.
It's time we brought back slackness to modern life.
I for one didn't expect the house to look great until the kids were grown up, not knowing then that by the time they did I liked the house the way it was, dents and all.
My mother based her entire entertaining career on Twinkle cake mixes and a dip made of dried onion soup mix and sour cream if she was going all out.
Sometimes I bathed my kids in the afternoon and put them in their pyjamas for something to do. And then did it again later in the day if it was still 5:00.
I once kept my daughter home for the wrong week for spring break because I read the note wrong and she was my first.
I thought that was funny.
When my first mother-in-law went to work full time she announced they were going to take away dinner from the local Hungarian restaurant every night and they did, she had no intention of doing it all and didn't intend to try.
Life can get too serious sometimes to take the times when it isn't, seriously.
You will be remembered by how you made the other guy feel far more than what you did.
You can pin that one.
- I am a mother, a new grandmother, and a teacher. But whatever happens in my life, I keep sewing. I have worked as a political communicator and now as a teacher in my formal life. I have also written extensively on sewing. I have been a frequent contributor and contributing editor of Threads magazine and the Australian magazine Dressmaking with Stitches. My first book Sew.. the garment-making book of knowledge will be published in May 2018 and is available for pre-order from Amazon